Being shy is also a function of the ego. Not knowing what to talk about with others, or worrying about what others think, are all thoughts. When you become no-minded, such thoughts do not arise, and you neither actively initiate conversation nor become passive, but just talk normally or stay silent.
Feeling uncomfortable with silence when a conversation stops is a sign of anxiety and overthinking. When you become no-minded, you stop caring about such things.
A strong sense of inferiority can sometimes give birth to a desire to appear grand, to become important, to be seen as such. This can motivate the creation of something, such as starting a business, seeking power or titles, or becoming ostentatious.
People with strong feelings of inferiority or envy often try to embarrass others in conversation or deliberately point out what they care about. This makes them feel superior. They might feel victorious in the moment, but in the long run, they will be disliked. If they have a bad personality, it's hard to maintain good relationships, and wherever they go, the same kind of relationships will be formed.
The ego, when it is concerned about a part of itself, looks at the same place in the person it interacts with. It compares itself with the other person, and it reassures itself or becomes anxious, or even feels superior, based on the comparison. This can be about the body, possessions, abilities, etc. The ego feels insecure about the imperfect "I". There is no such thing as an imperfect "I" in no-mindedness, so there is no anxiety.
Pointing out another person's ego, such as their feelings of inferiority or envy, can sometimes lead to their realization and improvement, but it can also cause resentment. It depends on the relationship and the situation.
People with a strong ego often hold grudges and anger, especially when they feel they have been wronged.
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