○Ego [12]

     In normal everyday life, everyone goes about their business in a normal manner. But at certain moments, spontaneous thoughts occur, the person's past memories are automatically replayed, and they suddenly become cold, aggressive, or moody. Eventually, this subsides and they return to normal. If this happens frequently, it can tire those who are with them.

    When you get drunk, your past memories are more likely to be automatically replayed. This can result in drunken violence, constant complaining, or the release of sexual desires that are usually not expressed. All are spontaneous thoughts.

    Everyone has their own thought habits that they are not aware of, and spontaneous thoughts can be deeply ingrained in the mind. These can include feelings of inferiority, trauma, jealousy, resentment, and thinking only of one's own gain. If you are not aware of these, your actions may cause trouble for others, your reputation may suffer, and you may be attacked. Start by sitting quietly with your eyes closed for at least 3 minutes a day and focusing your consciousness on your heart. Various emotions will arise, but observe each one and realize that you have been swayed by them. This is the first step. If you repeat this, you will develop a habit of noticing whenever emotions arise. When you notice, your thoughts stop at that moment and you are no longer swayed. In this way, thought habits that hold you back will disappear.

    If you are not always mindful of your thoughts, you can be swept away by them. Initially, you might feel bothered by the need to always be vigilant, but once it becomes a habit, the state of no-mind becomes easier.

    Let's assume that no-mind has become habitual and a calm mind is maintained. However, this may only be due to the temporary absence of worries. Eventually, when you face a crisis, it may trouble your mind.

    As long as humans are controlled by the ego, it's difficult to eradicate attacks on others. As long as there is a concept of "self", we prioritize and protect ourselves, and try to elevate our evaluation. When the ego has an unpleasant experience, the attack on the other person begins. How the attack is received determines whether it is bullying or not. Spreading the idea that bullying is bad is good, but for those strongly attached to their ego, morality is just a superficial story, and on the field, they think about winning against their opponent. Bullying is more likely to occur when you have to stay in the same place for a medium to long term. Creating an environment to avoid such situations can help avoid bullying. If it's a one-time harassment, it becomes a lesson to avoid that person.